Monday, March 18, 2013

Measurements, Time and Measuring Time

Kailey is frequently confused about how weight, height and time relate to one another.  She gets on the scale sometimes and declares, "MOMMY, look how OLD I am!"  I suppose it's good the scale isn't measuring age -- because, damn, I'd be ollldddd!  I tell her that the scale is all about weight, and not age, and she says, "But, I'm BIGGER."  In reality, Kai has been about 36 pounds for a long time.  But, no need to correct her.

She has, however, shot up in height this year.  She started the year at about 38".  We measure her yesterday and she's 40.5"!  Two and a half inches in growth in 3 months. No wonder she's been so cranky and tired lately.

When I told her she was now three-and-a-half feet tall she immediately protested, "NO! I'm four and a half!"  I tried to explain the difference between height and age, but she wasn't buying it.

And this morning, while eating her cereal, she said, "When I'm five and a half -- I will be so BIG!"  I told her she wasn't even five yet, and she said, "Well, I will be five soon and then after that five and a half."

True, it's just that she thinks that her friends at school who have recently had birthdays turned five at their parties (that were held off school grounds) and then five and a half at the parties held on school grounds.  So, the timeline is a little rushed.

Or, maybe Kai is just dialed in on how time really proceeds!  It certainly seems like these months pass in mere days.  I can't believe that a month from now, I'll have a five year old.  Really, where does the time go?


Friday, March 15, 2013

Feelings

Driving home from school the other day, Kailey said that it had been "a really long day".  We asked her if she had any fights and she said "no, I didn't fight today."  

We asked her if she had fun at school, and she said, "I had fun at school, but I just feel like crying right now."  

It was really cool that she communicated how she was feeling.  Particularly since, even as an adult, I often fail to communicate when I am tired and feeling sad.  And, I really am not good at doing that when there is no good reason for how I am feeling (meaning, nothing really went wrong during the day -- I'm just in a bad mood).  So, I told Kailey that.  I let her know that it was really great that she was telling us how she was feeling, rather then just being cranky or whiny.  And I told her that lots of times I'm cranky and crabby when I should just tell Kailey or daddy that I need a hug. 

When we got home, I said that we needed to start dinner and Kailey said she didn't want to help.  So, we switched gears.  We crawled into bed for a 10 minute snuggle, even though I was starving and wanting us to all get the table set and dinner going.  And, it did wonders for her mood.  We talked about teamwork while we were snuggling and how it's important to take a break for a snuggle so that we can all feel better.  And then I told her how it was also important to dig in and help each other get stuff done for the evening, even though we are feeling sad or cranky.  

Kai asked how long we could snuggle and we looked at the clock and picked a time for when we'd have to get up and make dinner.  And when that time came, Kailey popped right up.  She set the table.  She helped make food.  She cleaned up afterwards.  She took her bath.  She played Memory.  She was completely and utterly pleasant and agreeable all evening.  

While we were eating, I told her how proud I was of her for pitching in and not whining. "I whined a little," she corrected.  She makes me laugh. 

Sometimes (maybe all the time), it's just about the simple acts of communicating and compromising.  

Wednesday, March 13, 2013

Birthday Planning

While we were driving home from school today, we asked Kailey if she had played with Magnus during the day.

She confirmed that she had and then said, "Oh! And I need to get Magnus the Lego Two Ninja set so that for my birthday he will buy me the Barbie Lego set that has a pool and lots of dresses and bathing suits."

Kai has not mentioned anything that she wants for her birthday to us.  But, she's already started negotiating the gift exchange at school!